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Chris Garver (that’s not him in the pic btw) will be here for the 1st Singapore Tattoo Show 2009. And you know I am a huge fan of LA and Miami Ink. :D (Though Ami’s my favourite tattooist!)

Am thinking of popping by but dammit, it’s held at the Expo. Sibei far. They’re having a party at China One on Saturday. So head down if you’re interested.

I think I’ve held off my next tatt because after watching the Ink series, I don’t have faith in the skills of the tattooists in Singapore.

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I can say the stupidest things when my brain is not functioning properly.

A few nights ago, on the cruise, we decided to have a power nap before hitting the casino. When I was sleeping, I dreamt of playing mahjong when I suddenly woke up and yelled at my friend OY! IT’S YOUR TURN TO PONG!!

My friend was damn disoriented after being awoken and asked me back Hur? Are you sure it’s my turn? Did I say I want to pong?

Then I said Ya lah!! What suit are you playing? Wanzi or tongzi? after which I fell back asleep.

Throughout the whole day after we awoke, I kept thinking about the dumbass things I said and burst out laughing each time. The friend would always ask me wryly you’re thinking about the pong right? to which I would reply sheepishly yeah.

Thank God I didn’t say something raunchy instead. Like OY! MOUNT ME NOW!

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What I cannot fathom is when a guy friend tells me things like okay can play mahjong tonight, but make sure you don’t mention it in front of my girlfriend okay?

Or stuff like oh I didn’t tell the gf I’m coming out tonight, she thinks I’m at home so if she calls I’m not going to answer and am going to say I was sleeping.

And even today, a friend told me let me know when you want to meet up, I’ll get permission from the girlfriend.

Which makes me wonder why people are in relationships when their actions are restricted? Or rather, why do they feel the need to lie and hide things from their partners? And why do you need to ask for permission to do something? Granted, if you’ve made prior plans with him/her, it’s only considerate of you to check with him/her if he/she minds you changing the plans.

Isn’t a relationship about openness and honesty? About being with someone who understands you to the core and is more amused than bemused at your say… addiction to mahjong (within limits of course)? If your partner doesn’t understand your passion for say.. mahjong (hehe), or your need to go out with friends and have fun, then don’t you think you need to reflect on your choice of partner and your relationship?

The fundamental issue here isn’t about less restrictions or being more open. Rather, it’s about finding someone whom you don’t have to hide things from and whom you’re open with about everything and who accepts you for who you are. I’ve always emphasized that a relationship isn’t about merely having a boyfriend or girlfriend, but about having a partner. An equal. A best friend. Someone who respects you and your decisions, has utmost faith and trust in you, someone you can confide in and vice versa.

But what the hell do I know anyway. I’m the queen of dysfunctional relationships.

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The Nerd was late for brunch today, and worse was that he smsed me to start eating first because he had already eaten. What the…? I had looked forward to partaking in the late morning consumption of sustenance with you dammit.

And so, I dragged myself up after a mere four hours of sleep only to have brunch by my lonesome.

But never mind. I like The Nerd, and he indulges me in Guitar Hero. And so I spared him from my I am a stickler for punctuality lecture and a grouchy face. I was all sunshine today.

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Had an amazing new year’s eve. Did the whole countdown thing aboard the Superstar Virgo, and the ship sailed at midnight, so we saw fireworks from three different directions. It was pretty awesome. There was a dance party with live music, dancers and free flow of champagne.

People warned me that cruises are boring, but it was the best fun ever. We barely used our room, and spent most of our time at the casino gambling till the sun came up, and when the casino closed, we ran around taking silly photographs, eating or having our own black jack sessions on deck.

Lost at the Carribean Stud Poker and Blackjack tables but recovered the dough playing Roulette six hours straight.

Hope you guys had as good a NYE/NYD as I did! :)

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